For some time, you and your twin flame were side by side, sharing the good and the bad, feeling invincible, happy and complete.
But suddenly, along with the moments you shared, your twin flame is gone after a devastating breakup. All that is left is the twin flame longing and a wide-open space screaming to be filled.
At some point, questions arise in your head, and you want to know how to stop feeling empty without your twin flame as well as if they feel the same void and excruciating pain that is consuming you.
In this article we will dive deep into this issue and show you how to overcome it.
Do twin flames feel empty?
Yes, twin flames usually feel empty after a breakup.
The breaking of a twin flame bond can cause intense feelings of loss and a deep unexplained void. This pain is not exclusive to the twin flame chaser. The twin flame runner also feels empty even if this emptiness is mixed and disguised in between so many other confusing emotions that they can’t quite explain.
Twin Flame feeling Void
The twin flame void feels like a part of you has been ripped apart. Suddenly something is missing and you feel like it can’t be replaced.
The twin flame connection is a powerful experience like no other. It can change your life in so many ways. So, when the person you shared this connection with is no longer by your side, a void grows and deepens. The absence of your twin flame leaves the feeling of a huge empty space that leads to mourning and heartache.
Your friends and family will tell you to get over it and move on but in your head you think that you will never love anyone like you love them and that there is no one else in the whole world who can make you feel as happy as they did.
You might even know that these thoughts don’t make any sense and that there are so many wonderful people out there. Every person is different, and you will always share different and unique experiences with all of them which is one of the reasons why life is such an amazing and rich experience. You know this! But still, this deep void is crimpling and makes you fall into a dark night of the soul.
Is feeling empty the same as feeling sad?
Feeling empty is not the same as feeling sad. You may feel very sad after a breakup, but it doesn’t mean you will feel empty. It is important to distinguish the difference.
Feeling empty happens when you lack meaning and purpose in your life. It is usually when you rely on someone or something external to give you a reason to wake up in the morning and go on with your life. If that someone or thing suddenly disappear from your life, then you feel like there’s nothing else besides a deep void. You can’t find joy in other things such as your family, friends, work or hobbies.
It is related to the meaning you attribute to specific things in your life. If you give them the meaning of “the one” or “the only one” than when they’re gone it feels as if that void can never be filled.
If instead you give them the meaning of “someone I Iove” or “something I love”, it automatically becomes easier to feel that you can filll that void with many other things or people. In this case you might feel sad because something is gone, but not empty.
Thus, the importance of living your life with purpose and avoiding co dependence.
Why do twin flames feel empty?
If you are asking “Why do I feel empty?” you might not be aware of the actual reasons why people meet twin flames as well as the different twin flame stages.
One of the most painful stages of the twin flame connection is the twin flame separation.
Even though it can feel as the worst thing that has ever happened to you and as if you will never be able to recover, this is actually one of the most important and life changing moments of your life that you will be able to appreciate soon.
Feeling empty is necessary to reset your life and start filling it with all the good things that are about to come your way. This is the moment you needed to bring to the surface all your past wounds and traumas so that you can heal them.
Pain triggers healing and healing sets the ground for a new beautiful stage of your life – one that you never imagined it could come, even in your wildest dreams!
Yes, I know that’s something hard to believe right now, I remember exactly how I felt when I was going through twin flame separation and struggling with the emptiness and void in my life. But when you understand that the reason why you met your twin flame was to trigger you and help put you on your soul’s path, that’s when the magic happens. That’s when the universe starts sending you the synchronicities and signs to guide you on the next step of your journey.
The next step might involve twin flame reunion or not. Every soul has a different mission and purpose on this planet. Some twin flames can go through this process and after they work on themselves and develop self-love, they realize that they would rather enter a new relationship with a beautiful soulmate instead (even when their twin flame comes back and chases them). This is very common.
The purpose of going through all of that is to realize that you are a whole being and a “complete soul” not missing any parts of yourself. Understanding this is such a powerful and transformational moment. This is when you enter much more fulfilling paths that you could never imagine and you become grateful for having met your twin flame who was the trigger for all this magic!
How do you deal with emptiness after a break up?
If you are struggling to understand how to stop feeling empty after a breakup there are a few steps you can take to start moving on and filling the void.
Here are some tips on how to move past the emptiness of a breakup.
Feel your pain
This might seem harsh but the first step to start healing is to “feel”. You need to feel to heal!
Masking your feelings will only lead to escapism and delay the process.
Accept that you are going through a difficult time and allow yourself to mourn and feel the grief. It is ok to feel empty, sad and vulnerable. These feelings don’t just go away if you start numbing yourself with alcohol or meaningless dates.
Looking for distractions might look like it’s the easiest way and even your friends and family might recommend it. However, if you don’t take at least some time for yourself to sit with your emotions, you might be able to escape for a few moments but then the loneliness and emptiness will come back even stronger.
Let your emotions come to the surface and observe them. Ask yourself what the main sources of pain are right now. Is it that you feel lonely? Is it that you feel that you are enough? Is it that you don’t love yourself?
As you experience your emotions, you start to understand the root cause of your pain.
Trusting the process might seem difficult at first. But as you trust that the universe has your back, you will feel lighter. Trust that the pain does eventually lose its intensity as you open your mind and heart to receive the signs and guidance that will show you the next steps. The void stage doesn’t last forever, it is just a necessary transition period that will lead to a new and better version of you. Your true self will resurface, and you will feel more powerful than ever, ready to fulfill your mission.
Talk to others
After you went through the process of feeling your pain and acknowledging your emotions, it is time to start expressing them. There’s nothing wrong with talking to a friend or family member about what you are going through. The simple act of talking to someone and showing your vulnerability is a huge step in the process of healing and taking back your power. We talk to others not only because it helps see a different perspective from ours, which give us clarity, but also because expressing ourselves helps prevent the build up of negative emotions inside us.
Do what you love
Taking action is also an important part of the healing process after a breakup which will help you heal the wounds from the twin flame connection. Think of the things that you enjoy doing such as a hobby or something you are passionate about. It might be painting, writing, cooking, playing music… Whatever it is, it is connected to your mission in this lifetime. Make space for it in your week and you will feel a renewed sense of purpose.
Discover new skills
You can also try something new such as signing up for those music lessons or gardening course. You will be surprised with all the talent it has been hidden because you never gave it a try. Discovering new skills is one of the most joyful moments of your life and it can completely transform it. Maybe you can use these new skills to launch a new business or help other people and the planet. The possibilities are endless!
Seek professional help
If at some point you feel depressed or unable to cope with the overwhelming feelings and emptiness, please ask for help. There is nothing wrong with seeking the help of a coach or therapist. They will be able to give you that extra support to help you come out of this stage feeling stronger and healthier than ever.
Never forget that you are beautiful and lovable. You are enough, and there is nothing wrong with you. You deserve to have the best relationship and the best person for you at your side, and you will have it, as soon as you focus on yourself and develop unconditional self-love. That’s when your energy becomes super powerful and magnetic and you start attracting your dreams into your reality.
Love and light x